Self-confidence is defined as the ability to trust in one’s skills, qualities, and judgments. In reality, it’s so much more than that: a slippery eel of a concept that some lucky few seem to be born with while others spend a lifetime chasing. With good reason.
Self-confidence is almost always linked to having a happy and fulfilling life. Confident men are often more resilient, less anxious, and less fearful, which no doubt comes from having a stronger sense of identity and being able to silence that self-defeating inner voice that we all struggle with from time to time.
Now, we’re not talking about being a self-centered loud-mouthed yobbo. We mean the kind of quiet, dignified, and manly self-confidence that attracts the respect and interest of everyone around you. Improved confidence is also the key to developing better relationships because you become less focused on yourself and more intune to what other people need from you.
Instead of constantly worrying about what others think about you, building up your own self-confidence is a tried and true method for being able to engage with other people in a more genuine way and also make a positive impact in their lives.
But doing this as an adult can be bloody hard. So, let’s take a look at a few tips for how to increase confidence. It’s why you’ve already read this far, isn’t it?
Confidence goes with positive mindset
We’re sure you’ve heard this one quite a bit. After all, nobody likes a negative nelly. It’s just as important to not simply close your ears to the negativity potentially being spoken about and around you as it is to keep that interior monologue in check - with a focus on being happy and supportive versus falling prey to any self-defeating thoughts.
Positivity also means feeling proud of your accomplishments and actively practicing gratitude every day. If you don’t feel any of this naturally, that’s okay, it doesn’t come easy to everyone. This is especially the case if you were raised around a lot of negativity.
So, give yourself a well-deserved break! By correcting the negative messages you send yourself, being positive will start to become second nature.
Know and embrace yourself to become more confident
A confident man knows himself deeply. That means he is aware of his strengths but also embraces his flaws with grace. If that self-defeating voice in your head has you so stonkered that you can’t even think of what assets you might possess, sit down and take inventory of what makes you most proud about yourself.
You can start small. Maybe you always remember to use your turn signal when driving and never forget to floss. Those are things to be proud of! Similarly, a man who accepts his flaws knows exactly what he is capable of and, in many cases, can even use his flaws to his advantage. Our imperfections are actually what make us all unique.
Let’s be honest, have you ever really met someone without flaws? That, sir, was probably an alien. Better get checked for signs of probing. But truth be told, you’ve probably met someone and felt they were flawless in comparison to you. People sometimes do this as a way of projecting their own insecurities into the world.
The only person you should ever be comparing yourself to is your past self - to see how much you’ve grown!
Take care of your body
You can’t be confident if you’re letting your body become a deteriorating wreck, so take care of it, mate! Keep up a healthy diet, go to the doctor for regular check-ups, visit the dentist to keep your chompers in tip-top shape, maintain an excellent posture, and be sure to exercise often.
Treating your body right won’t just make you look better, it will make you feel better, too. And the combination is sure to result in radiating confidence. Just make sure you’re not also radiating powerful BO after that trip to the gym by taking a shower and using a natural deodorant.
Being generous is a sign of a confident man
If you took inventory of all of your strengths like we suggested, then you know you have quite a lot to offer and be proud of. That means it’s time to start giving back! You don’t have to be billionaire Jeff Bezos to do this.
When you give back to others, whether it’s by volunteering for a non-profit, donating to charity you care about, or buying lunch for a friend, you set off all sorts of endorphins that make you feel good and, you guessed it, increase your confidence, too.
Learning new skills
One of those ancient Greek philosophy blokes once said, “I know that I know nothing.” A wise man realizes that as he gains knowledge, the true vastness of things that he doesn’t actually know creates a sense of humility that helps draw a deep line in the sand between confidence and arrogance.
Confident men believe in themselves enough to not be embarrassed to ask questions or admit to not knowing something. This is the key to learning new skills and building knowledge.
And boy, can we teach you some’ fun crazy facts about all things Aussie right now! Play an instrument, learn a language, study ancient Greek mythology—pretty much anything that can expand your horizon.
Constant learning keeps the mind young and makes you a more well-rounded ma—and let’s be honest, a well-rounded man is a confident man.
Confident men don’t wander aimlessly through the bush, waiting for life to happen to them. They set goals and push themselves to achieve whatever it is they desire.
New Years is a great opportunity to start doing that. But truth be told, any day can be New Years for a confident man who’s ready to take life by the horns!
Make your goals challenging but achievable, so you’re always pushing yourself yet still able to reach the goals you set for yourself.
Well-groomed man appears more confident
What, you thought we weren’t going to mention our raison d'être? If you’re taking care of your body, you have to take care of the window dressings as well.
Brush your teeth, wash your face, style your hair, and take a moment to make sure you always smell nice and fresh.
If you’re a complete bogan on square one when it comes to grooming, we’ve got plenty of easy-to-use men’s grooming kits to get you moving in the right direction.
Look at you, mate, you’re ready to take over the world! Just please do it benevolently, you tower of confidence you, because let’s face it, we’ve all been through a lot lately.